How to Restore Broken Relationships (JP and Roochie Masakayan Testimony)

Notes to self on “How to Restore Relationships” from Paul Tanchi’s Message 4/29/18: . “1. Repent- Get right with your vertical relationship (with God by repenting/ confessing) and it follows that you get right with your horizontal relationship (others). . 2. Forgive – When you pray blessing for the person and that (s)he come to…

Happiness, Marriage, and Remarriage: Dr. Nomer Bernardino

What truly makes people happy? What is God’s design for marriage? What can be done when marriage is not working? What does the bible say about divorce and remarriage? Breadcom Senior Pastor, Rev. Dr. Nomer Bernardino who authored Psalm Kind of Happiness (available at OMF Literature, Amazon, and Christian and other local bookstores) provided biblical answers…

7 Marriage Lessons for Singles, Newlyweds, and Longtime Married Couples

“Your single life is like the nine months you are in your mother’s womb. But now, you are starting a new life… the cord needs to be cut,” Pastor Jonathan Fenix began his message to Brandon and Charmaine on their wedding ceremony.  This message is a good refresher even for longtime husband and wife as…

“There Are Treasures In Life That Can Only Be Found In The Dark”: Fe Abellera Gochuico

I was supposed to be in Makati until evening. She was supposed to have early lunch somewhere else. It was her birthday and her former student’s mom, Mayette, our occasional guest wanted to take Teacher Fe out. A jumble of uninformed venue change for my seminar, lack of gas, and traffic delay caused us to…

 A Word from Deonna Regarding Divorce

Earlier this month, a dear friend I haven’t seen for a while came to the shop because she was invited to an event there. Before she joined her party, she pulled me aside and asked me about divorce. I asked her to read with me verses from 1 Corinthians 7 about marriage.  I then remembered that…

“Conflicted Passions”

Sharing with you Pastor Joseph Bonifacio’s teaching. I think it’s a good message for men who don’t know that charming chicks are the cheese on the enemy’s mousetraps they tap dance on. Conflicted Passions A previous post on the related topic: Scarlet Letter

Abuse: Interview with Pastor Ann Chan (Part 3)

Because abuse is a very delicate subject, I would like to preface this article with biblical parameters and testimonies so that no one reading this will wield the tongue in the power of the flesh, but rather the Holy Spirit, when setting out to put the needed healthy boundaries that Pastor Ann Chan boldly discusses…

Not Getting What One Prays For: Interview with Pastor Ann Chan (Part 2)

BUTTERFLYINTHESPRING (BITS): What encouragement can you give to someone who feels let down in their faith in the word, when no breakthrough seems to happen for their prayers, for example to verses like “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4)” PASTOR ANN CHAN (AC): When…

Don’t Waste Pain: Interview with Pastor Ann Chan (Part 1)

Pastor Ann Chan of Covenant Evangelical Free Church Singapore was one of the speakers during the Global Discipleship Congress 2013 held at the CCF (Christ’s Commission Fellowship) Main Center from May 22-25. She was gracious to accept an interview. Here, she gives encouragement to the weary wife deserted by her husband but it can apply…

Marriage on The Rock (Part 2) Albit Rodriguez: From Rescued to Servant of The Rescuer

Albit Rodriguez had it all or so he thought. He had “become some sort of warlord complete with the 4G’s: guns, goons, gold, and girls.” He thought he was “on top of the world” but today when he looks back to that life, he considers it like “quicksand” which included addictions and suicidal thoughts. “I…

Maricor: Single Mom’s Victory in Christ

Single moms will probably agree that the road is not easy. Among several challenges, Maricor was faced with financial uncertainty, self-worth questions, and the issue of temptation added to the deep hurt of rejection, betrayal, anger, and abandonment. As she came to know Jesus and lifted up each concern, each of which was important to…

A Betta Life: Transformed By Grace

This is a story about a woman who was redeemed by God from a place where she was wedged between a husband and a wife. She is taking a step of faith to have the courage to share her very personal story in hope that it will encourage someone who finds herself in the situation…

Q and A with a Woman Who’s Been There and Done That: Dawn Urquico

Here is a previous post on Dawn Urquico’s testimony of radical obedience, waiting for her then-prodigal husband who has since returned home and become a pastor: http://butterflyinthespring.com/2013/01/08/dawn-urquicos-testimony/ Gracious Dawn agreed to be interviewed. Sharing her answers with you: 1. How did you know that it is God’s will for your marriage to be restored? Is…

Word for the Third Party

If you find yourself compromised and wedged between a husband and wife, know that God loves you so much. Jesus died for you. He relentlessly pursues you with a passionate love. God’s grace is available for you. If you are tired, weary or burdened, He opens His hands, arms, and heart to you, beckoning you…

Perfect Valentine

Eight years ago, I got invited to a ladies’ luncheon where I heard the speaker, Deonna Tanchi, talking about the stages of love. If I remember right, it was something like this:  1. Romance;  2.  Reality;  3. Resentment;  4. Retaliation;  5. Rage;  6. Resignation or Restoration. Romantic movies popularize notions like “You complete me”. In reality, we…