How to Be A Happy Travel Companion

1000 places to see before you die Many years ago, I bought this book called  1,000 Places to See Before You Die A Traveler’s Life List. I planned to cherry pick places to put on my bucket list as “worth seeing” so that I could say that I’ve lived.

Given a choice, because of my excitement to learn, I prefer to travel to different parts of the world other than what I’ve already seen.  Alone, I can breeze merrily through a city’s highlights in 24 hours.  But during the times when I’m not traveling alone, here are some guidelines that have helped me to work at being a happy travel companion:

  1. Context:  Keep in mind the context of your travel situation. Are you responsible for the itinerary? If yes, try your best to plan something that everyone will enjoy. If you are a tagalong, remember how hard it is to plan an itinerary so just enjoy.  There is much to learn from others. If things aren’t exactly what you hoped, remember you will have a chance to be the travel boss if you are alone.
  2. Collaborative planning. Allow others to express what they want to do. Plan some “free periods” wherein everyone meets at a certain place and time after doing their own thing.
  3. Choose your battles.  Will the things that are frustrating you now matter in your deathbed? If not, chillax.
  4. (Get in the right) Circle : Focus on the circle of things within your control (including your response) and surrender to God the things outside your control (other people’s choices including their punctuality, the weather, someone getting sick, etc.). If you try to control everything, you will be so frustrated and that will cause wrinkles! 🙂
  5. Character: Having your way in comfort is nice but character is formed during the times when you don’t. Isn’t character a worthy, higher long-term goal?
  6. Contentment.  You may have had a long list of places you longed to see and not be able to tick everything off your wish list. Here’s an insight from Ann Voskamp:

    “The only place we have to come before we die is the place of seeing God.”
    ― Ann Voskamp, One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are

    Last Sunday’s church message from Pastor Peter Tanchi gave additional insights:

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Be like Christ:be like Christ

Since I’ve been an empty nester, God has been gracious to give me many opportunities to be the beloved’s tagalong.  I’ve learned to just enjoy myself with no particular agenda. When I find myself with free time, it takes only a few minutes to surf the internet and find available accessible activities I would appreciate.

On this particular trip to Singapore, I was able to enjoy afternoon tea at W Hotel and Pollen, and a restaurant that my friend/ one of my baking mentors, Dr. Dennis Hipolito, recommended, Curious Palette…

Woobar at W Hotel, Sentosa Cove

img_5091-1img_5010-1 The view and ambience are quite refreshing.


The open-sided birdcage is a perfect reminder that you can choose to look to either side of the cage to feel walled in or to see the blessed freedoms God has already given.



POLLEN, Marina Gardens


The Pollen’s buggy will pick you up at the base of this Marina Bay Sands Tree Garden tree-o:

From the Marina Bay pickup/ dropoff area to Pollen Restaurant itself is an awesome view of the Singapore skyline and waterfront.  The meal comes with a complimentary access to the Flower Dome.


img_5227The restaurant and table setup:



The bill comes in what looks like a treasure box:)


Curious Palette, Prinsep Street





Soft Shell Crab, Avocado, Portobello, Arugula Sandwich— a few of my favorite ingredients


Berry Ricotta Hotcake

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