Grief That Can’t Be Spoken

“There’s a grief that can’t be spoken, there’s a pain goes on and on” 🎼used to be my favourite line when I put Eddie Redmayne‘s Les Miz song on loop back in 2012 during a difficult time. There weren’t enough words to adequately express the immeasurable depth of that sorrow or merely attempting to begin to express that sorrow may open a floodgate of pain. The fact that it was temporary/ passing / finite was something I couldn’t clearly see.

But with God’s encouragement through His word, prayers of others, my own prayers and surrendering my will to God’s and submitting by seeking to see things His way… that the refining by trials process (James 1:1-2-4) is necessary for me to be complete in order to navigate the rest of life, He started healing me. A breakthrough happened when Tita Thelma told me that God can’t take the reins of my situation if I am still in control. Only one of us can be in control— either God or I. If I am still offended, if I’m still whining, that is a manifestation of incomplete surrender, therefore I am still in control. So how can He steer my circumstances? “Try thanking God for the very thing you are complaining about,” she challenged me.

Huh? Whatchu talkin’ ’bout, Willis?

1Thess 5:18 says, “Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” God has the power to change things, just as we as parents have the power to stop a doctor’s immunisation shot from being administered to our children. But with God’s love and wisdom as filter, and His comforting presence and words not far behind, He allows us to go through certain things to let the diamond in the rough come out. “And we know that in all things, He works for the good of those who love Him who have been called according to His purpose.” Progressive healing continued to take place.

June 27, 2018 after I sang “There’s a grief that can’t be spoken…” impromptu [on Jocelyn’s persistent request for a Les Miz song before they would leave], I was reminded of how the Lord has healed not only my grief but also my pain. I was actually very amused that the first song I found on my playlist had the perfect title, “Empty Chairs and Empty Tables” on my countdown to closing my shop! 🙂


Thankful for our God of the Impossible who heals grief, pain, brokenness and restores, rebuilds lives. ❤️


Dear Friend, if you are in a season of grief, be encouraged. “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Rom 8:28 NIV

From CCF Fasting Devotion Day 2 from “Beauty in Brokenness”:

Brokenness is a humbling experience that comes from realising our unworthiness in the face of God’s holiness (Job 42:5-6; Isa 6:5). Brokenness is the point when we stretch out our quivering hands to God and explain to Him, “Not my will, Lord, but Your will be done.” (Luke 22:42).

Read Psalm 51 and see how King David dealt with his brokenness which led to his restoration.

As you pray, meditate on God’s sovereignty in your life. Praise and thank Him that in the midst of brokenness, He is always present to make you whole again.

Humbly surrender every area of your life to God so that you may experience Him restoring you to wholeness.

Ask Him for wisdom hat you may respond well to your situation.

“He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3



Thank you Annabelle for your encouragement and support for KK. Thank you Ayie for the 🎬

#midyear #fasting #ccf #beautyinbrokenness #brokennesstowholeness #Godwhoheals #Healer #Comforter #Restorer #Strength #Rebuilder #Rewarder #savedbygrace #lesmiz #emptychairs #fullhearts

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