Have you ever been abandoned by a loved one? Sometimes, a person you love has to leave you behind because (s)he dies or has no choice, for example, to work in another country to feed a family of ten. Being left behind can be a painful experience. But if a loved one has several different options and the one he willfully chooses is to leave, that can be doubly hurtful.
Mark 12:29-31 tells us that we are to love the LORD with ALL our heart, soul, mind, and strength. If we did that, then the relationship with God would be the most important in our lives. God is supposed to be our anchor and foundation, the basis for our wellness and joy. When he is number one in our hearts, we will have him solidly to cling to when a loved one leaves. If someone other than God holds the Number One spot in our hearts, when that person has to go (which is true for 100% of people, death taken into consideration), it will be harder to bounce back from devastation.
When the Lord who knows your needs is your Shepherd, you shall not be in want. He will make you rest and be refreshed. He will comfort you, be with you every step of the way so that you need not fear. He will lead you to the right path. He will treat you to a feast as your enemies watch. With him, your cup will overflow. Surely goodness and mercy will follow you all the days of your life (from Psalm 23)
In the case of a romantic loved one, sometimes people can be so passionate about declaring endless love, then completely turn around after some time. An example is in Matthew Chapter 26. Here, Peter declares he is willing to die for Jesus and then goes on to deny him three times just a short time after. Tom Jones might agree that it’s not unusual for someone to say he’d rather die than be without you and then to turn around and drop you like a hot potato.
(Matt 26: 33 Peter replied, “Even if all fall away on account of you, I never will.” 35 But Peter declared, “Even if I have to die with you, I will never disown you.” …72 He denied it again, with an oath: “I don’t know the man!” 74 Then he began to call down curses on himself and he swore to them, “I don’t know the man!” Immediately a rooster crowed.)
In contrast, look at God’s character as the lover of your soul, warts and all:
Heb 13:5b says: “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” God will always be around. He doesn’t die, either. (1Tim 1:17) God is not a man, that he should lie, nor a son of man, that he should change his mind (Num 23:19). He is faithful (Deut 32:4). He loves you unconditionally (Rom 5:8). Jesus not only professes his love for you but already died for you and gave himself up for you. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Eph 5:25). God’s love for you is constant through all the stages of your life, as your outer perishable shell of a body diminishes, as the memory weakens, through weaknesses and failures…as is, where is.
For your Maker is your husband, the LORD Almighty is his name (Isa 54:5). God wants to be your life partner. A human partner can be a supplement but never a substitute. If you are unmarried, Stay away from people who are not followers of the Lord (2 Cor 6:14). If a man goes to church everyday, that does not mean that he will follow God’s ways of loving. Even if his body is inside the church, if the heart is not following after the Lord, then where his body goes means nothing. If he doesn’t care what is written in the bible, he will not have the wisdom to go for a praying woman instead of a preying one. If you are going to invest your life in a Romeo, make sure it is the right One.
SONG: PSALM 23 (Don Moen)