1 Samuel 16:7 (NIV) 7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
While people assess others based on looks, God goes for the heart of a person: purity, rightness with Him, having a sober assessment of how He sees her. Not putting herself down because to God she is precious enough to die for. Not blowing her own horn for she knows that she can only compare herself to Christ; she falls short of God’s standards. She has a humble acceptance of who she is and has Him as the right Priority and Guide.
1Pet3: 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewellery or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands.
These passages cite purity, reverence, holiness, and a gentle and quiet spirit coming from the inner self. Hardly appearing on the criteria list on any of the beauty pageants and reality shows. But these constitute unfading beauty of great worth in God’s sight. These are timeless qualities that women who put their hope in God seek after. Submitting to their own husbands (not somebody else’s husband) is also noteworthy.
Those who seek after people’s approval may tend to focus on everything external which is how the world usually judges. This could be exhausting. Man’s choice is arbitrary and changing. New models arise. Popularity is unreliable and passing. Looks can not be a main pursuit.
However, to strike a balance, it is wise to go back to the verse in 1Samuel where it says that the Lord looks at the heart but people look at outward appearance. While the number one pursuit ought to be the state of the heart to please the Lord, a wife should remember that her husband tends to consider her outward appearance and therefore should put care into how she presents herself outwardly for him.
Please cleanse my heart of what is not from You. Help me to pursue holiness, reverence, a gentle and quiet spirit, submitting to my own husband. Help me to seek after these as part of a lifestyle of seeking Your will first and foremost. Please help me to also not focus on other people’s outward appearance for the most important thing is the heart. Yet, please give me the wisdom that in letting God and letting go, I should not include my outward appearance in the things I let go because my husband is still human who needs an attractive wife. May the meditations of my heart be pleasing to You in Jesus’s name amen.